Friendship 101
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Lately I have an issue about friendship. A friend has been asking the matter and I'm reflecting the topic myself and discussed it with some other friends.
"Do friendship really need commitment?"
I guess not, friendship isn't relationship where people 'hooking up' and 'breaking up'. In friendship we befriends and there are no beginning and ending except that we're dead. Because being friends is having separated for miles or years but acting like nothing happened when we meet again someday. (Quoted a line I got from one of facebook's applications: "True friendship isn't being separable, it's being separated and nothing's changed.")
So, I guess not; friendship is something that we have naturally, without any commitment because commitment is a heavy thing that needs sacrifices and rules and it's worth only for man-woman's relationship, while friendship shouldn't be finished (Quoted another line from the same application: "There are three things in life that shouldn't be broken: hearts, promises, and friendship")
Friendship don't demand or order. Friendship is to give and take. Friendship is to understand one's mind without having to describe it in words. Another application's item said: Friends ask why you're crying, best friends already have the shovel ready to bury that loser that made you cry. (Meaning: friends still have to question your behavior but best friends understand).
Friendship should be balanced. If one gives more while the other always takes, it's not a sign of a healthy relationship; it's either like one is 'buying' the other one's friendship or one is taking an advantage of the other. And friendship with so much lies, forces, and masks within it isn't a comfort one to be in.
But friendship stay true and forever. It has to happen naturally with people to whom we feel comfortable to be with, to talk with, to lay our heads on, to cry to, and to be just ourselves whenever we're with them. That's what I call a good and healthy friendship.
And I'm one of the people who cherish friendship, who put her friends on top of her list and who values the friendship itself in the highest place. But I guess it's not that easy to get on my top list cuz to find ones with chemistry is kinda hard these days.
"Do friendship really need commitment?"
I guess not, friendship isn't relationship where people 'hooking up' and 'breaking up'. In friendship we befriends and there are no beginning and ending except that we're dead. Because being friends is having separated for miles or years but acting like nothing happened when we meet again someday. (Quoted a line I got from one of facebook's applications: "True friendship isn't being separable, it's being separated and nothing's changed.")
So, I guess not; friendship is something that we have naturally, without any commitment because commitment is a heavy thing that needs sacrifices and rules and it's worth only for man-woman's relationship, while friendship shouldn't be finished (Quoted another line from the same application: "There are three things in life that shouldn't be broken: hearts, promises, and friendship")
Friendship don't demand or order. Friendship is to give and take. Friendship is to understand one's mind without having to describe it in words. Another application's item said: Friends ask why you're crying, best friends already have the shovel ready to bury that loser that made you cry. (Meaning: friends still have to question your behavior but best friends understand).
Friendship should be balanced. If one gives more while the other always takes, it's not a sign of a healthy relationship; it's either like one is 'buying' the other one's friendship or one is taking an advantage of the other. And friendship with so much lies, forces, and masks within it isn't a comfort one to be in.
But friendship stay true and forever. It has to happen naturally with people to whom we feel comfortable to be with, to talk with, to lay our heads on, to cry to, and to be just ourselves whenever we're with them. That's what I call a good and healthy friendship.
And I'm one of the people who cherish friendship, who put her friends on top of her list and who values the friendship itself in the highest place. But I guess it's not that easy to get on my top list cuz to find ones with chemistry is kinda hard these days.
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