This question might get to you sooner or later. But this specific question bothered me since I just entered college. I don't really remember why, but I remember consulting to our lecturer for Character Building class, Kak Keyren. So it was in 2002, or I was 18-19 years old.

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I remember asking her: 

Why am I always the only one who cares the most but get nothing in return? 

Why did people disappear when I need them, while I was always there when they needed me? 

I don't really remember what Kak Keyren told me at that time. But the answer that really satisfies me came in years after that, in a life process that happened through the years. And that's what makes the answer sticks with me, because I learned it through life events and experiences. 

Along the years, I found this 'formula' of life: We care the most because we are the ones who are granted such big heart and it is our duty to help others with our gift. We all have our own gifts and tasks. Talents and passion. And it is our tools for use to help people (read my previous post.)

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I remember reading The Smurf comics, where one of the Smurfs asked Papa Smurf why they must go to Chef Smurf for food, to Tailor Smurf for clothes, and so on (I forgot the exact case but this is what I remember) then Papa Smurf made them all do everything by themselves. It went chaotic because at the end of the day they realized that they may look alike but they don't have the same ability.
Some are good with poems or drawings, some are good with machines or heavy duty. Some are thinkers, the others are doers. They are created with uniqueness and different gifts. So if they try to do things by themselves, it is chaotic; if they work together, hand-in-hand helping one another, there's harmony. Therefore they continued to do things like they always do: focus on their speciality and help others with that.

I think it's really good lesson for children (I read this when I was a kid) that people are born different and unique, but also that we are not living for our own. We live to help the others with what we have. If we have money, it's good to share some with the less fortunate. And we can always help others with our skills. But sometimes we don't have any money or skill, but we have time. It's okay -- rather it's much more valued -- because once lost, we cannot get our time back. And if what we have is 'just' the caring and understanding, it's already more than enough to start helping the others. And one can never be lacked of these.

In one of my favourite articles about horoscope, it reads: 

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I think it is this article that really soothed me with 'the answer', but you may not a Piscean so this article may mean nothing for you (check yours here!) But it's okay. We have our own task and values in life, so I'm not going to say that we are the same or to doctrine anyone about anything. Just keep on reading...

Anyway, that article also tells me that it is the reason why there is nobody can really understand a Pisces' mellow heart. I guess that's why I've always felt lonely and misunderstood.. until I found the answer that created this state of mind called 'inner peace'. And with that, I guess it is our job as Pisceans to bring understanding to all humankind with the language understood by all: art.

So I figure that our job is not to preach people with this knowledge or whatever gift we have. People won't listen, or they may not understand anyway. But we must develop and turn it into art, so then people will know and understand by their senses. I guess that's why most Pisceans are born artist: poets, painters, sculptors, dancers, musicians, and even novelists. Some of us may not have the ability to tell, therefore we show.

Enough about Pisces, now how about you? Well back to the article, you are granted with one of these: Self-Esteem, Strength, Knowledge, Family, Honour, Purity of Thought, Love, Purpose, Inifinite Abundance, Responsibility or Freedom. Each of the gift has its own strength but also their weaknesses. That's why it's important for us to learn to own this gift, to control and master it, and to use it as a tool to help the others.

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Go to a Sag when you need to be cheered up and go to an Aquarius when you need to let loose. Go to a Gemini when you want to know things, and go to a Libra when you need to feel love. Go to a Virgo for wisdom, and go to a Leo to learn dignity. And so on, and so on. These are all the equipment that God prepare for us to survive life: learn from one another in order to achieve a higher understanding of life.

So I hope there should be no more 'why me?' questions in the future for us. We are 'granted with the gifts' according to our capacity and character. We are 'chosen' to do some tasks because we are able to do it, and may be the only one who is able to execute it. That's why it seems like sometimes all we do is to give without receiving. One thing we must remember is, that we also receive from the others in other form.

We may keep on giving them food and fortune, but we'd receive joy and peace in return. We may keep on giving people our skills and time, but then we'd receive money as payment, or network/connection, or rare opportunity, or other things we sometimes don't realize is our reward. It works like that: God fills us with infinite ability in one thing (called as talent or advantage) so we can keep on giving it to people; then we would receive something else in return so we are never empty. But we can never do it all alone. Life needs to be done with a good teamwork.

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And if this question appears in other context, as in 'Why do I get this trials? Why God let this happen to me? Why me?' the answer is simple: because you can get thru it. Always remember that God will never put you through anything you can't handle. So you are already equipped with the tools inside of you to get thru all this. And when it gets too heavy a burden, you can always seek for help.

And if the next thing you think is that 'God must hate me that he let this happen to me', the answer is: No. God loves you so much instead that He let this happened in order to teach you strength, perseverance, faith, hope, and love. God loves you so much that He use your story to inspire the others, to show the world of your capacity, of how much strength lies in a person when one has faith.

So it really is up to us to act on it; whether to lose it or to victor it, and use it as a chance to declare His glory. I hope this message can inspire or remind all of us to keep on doing good and to share love everywhere we go. God bless. Namaste. Rahayu.