Have you ever meet someone, dislike him/her for some reasons, but keep looking for them, care for them, and can't get them out of your head/heart? No matter how they hurt you, you still love them anyway. Well, this person could be someone you've met before (and I mean before this lifetime) and you still have some unfinished business you have to resolve in this lifetime. It can be called as a karmic relationship; which has something that you need to finish.
I just read this great article about the difference between karmic, soulmate and twin flame relationships. But let's save the soulmate and twin flame ones for another discussion, and let's now talk about the karmic relationship. So far, I have had this type of relationship, both with female friend and with love partner. With one of the boyfriends I had, I remember having this thought at the beginning of our 3-year relationship: I know I won't marry this guy, but I have to be in a relationship with him because I need to learn something from him and he from me.
At that time, I wasn't so aware of my spirituality, but I remember the message echoed clearly in my head and I told my best friend at the time, Tessa, about that. And by the time my relationship ended with him, I was changed. I learned how to be bold, brave, to stand on my ground, to speak up, and to forgive (the latter, I couldn't do it until years later, because I found it was rather hard to forgive someone who hurt you constantly for the mistakes you didn't commit just because he was lack of love and you were just the victim of his poor self-loving situation.)
Author Mitch Albom beautifully wrote a bit about this in his book, my favourite of his, The Five People You Meet In Heaven. The book explains how we learn things from the people we meet in this life, be it 'coincidentally' or not, that was arranged by the Universe. Life is all about learning after all. To learn and 'be perfect as His image'. And if we fail, the same lessons will repeat again and again until we pass the test and get on to the next level.
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Karmic relationships are mostly paid by getting married to one who seems to be 'the wrong person'. At one point they seemed to be The One, and we married/get into a relationship with them, then hurt each other along the way. Some people passed this by accepting the situation and learning to love and forgive each other no matter what. Some other decided to cut the bond and choose to get divorce/break up. The decision, however, is all in your hands.
But I would suggest that you don't quit until things are resolved and you've learned and balanced from the situation, and thrive from it, because all of the problems that occur in your relationship is the only way you can learn about the things you must learn in this life. How else would you learn, if not by the daily problems that you must face anyway? Different from the school tests, life give us first the test, and the lesson later. So it depends on your sensitivity/stubbornness to learn from it.
Karmic relationships, as upsetting it could be, can be the best way for us to learn things. For me it is. And thriving from this test could be one of the most victorious feeling you could ever feel, despite the pain and wound and tears, because if you learn well, you'll see that it all would make you stronger. So if life is throwing you lemons, just make the lemonade and put some ice on it. Drink it, and be refreshed. Take it as the bittersweet medicine you must take in order to be better. Read my thoughts about thriving from the obstacles here.
Paying off karma, as far as I see, can be various. A couple I know are married without kids. It is a part of paying the husband's karma because once upon a time he had killed people in his past incarnation and now he has to deal with the fact that his wife cannot give birth. How do I know his karma? Well, I got my sources alright. But let's just take it as an example.
An Indonesian book Reinkarnasi by D. Indrahartanto explained some karmic relationship cases. A woman who cannot get away from an abusive relationship, a pervert man who now has to live with HIV in the present day, or a 2-year old child who insisted that his father was someone else than his biological father and that he was murdered in his previous life, just six months before he was reborn. If you can read Indonesian, you can check out the review here. Or, you can read these books by Herwiratno to know more about 'the after life and releasing karma'.
One thing I can say about karmic relationship, as also explained here, is that it will change how you view the world, the things outside of us, about the other people, of our place in this world, and how we could handle certain situations. It really make us learn a lot about how the Universe works, but not all of it. There are still lots of things that we don't know about this world, so just wait for your next lesson(s).
You could hate this person you have this karmic relationship so much, but please never regret things that happened because at that point of your life, you needed it. Because you needed to learn and thrive from it and move on to the next level. A wise man once told me: we are all just playing a role in this world. We could get the good character, but sometimes we can make awful decision, and other time we be the victim. It's all just the role we play.
Check out if your relationship now is karmic:
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By knowing the type of relationship we are in now, we can get a better vision/picture about our situation and know the best way to fix/finish it -- anything that's necessary. I hope we can all resolve the problems in our lives and thrive from the troubles, and be better each time.
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