Another Victoria's Secrets

Although many are inspired by the quote "My attitude is based on how you treat me", I would stand against the odd and added: NOT. It is based on how great a person I am. I know that as human we are tend to copy the attitude of our surroundings, being nice to those who are nice to us and to avenge the mistreats we've got.

It is easy to just do what the society do. But to have a character and not being affected by the negative is one hell kind of an attitude! While many people I know agree more to the original version of the quote (by the quotes they re-posted), I can easily judge them for being shallow, narrow-minded and being too mainstream to follow every trending topic.

I, on the other hand, was taught differently, both by the religion I was raised on and by the parents who always stood for what they said was right. I feel kind of lucky to have that kind of parents. They taught me to understand things more than to copy things literally. I was taught to get the point of every problem and implement different solutions to different situations.

If people are treating others by how they are treated, then how on earth would we have the peaceful world we all are dreaming about? If the chain of mistreats aren't to be broken, wouldn't this life be full with vengeance and unhappy people? If no one dare to be the light and inspire the others, won't this world covered in darkness with negativity all around?

So, I'm saying (especially to the youth) to stand out and be different--as long as it is the right thing to do--and have a principle to build a strong and mature character. This is necessary, especially to have the spirit of a knight, of being right before being good or kind, and to hold on to justice and wisdom. This is my opinion. What do you think?

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Sabda Pandhita Ratu, or "the words of a queen (or king)", is one of Javanese' philosophy. The complete saying is as follows: sabda pandhita ratu, tan kena wola-wali, and berbudi bawalaksana. It means, "once the words are said, it must be done and do not changed". Berbudi bawalaksana means "to hold on to the words/promises; the unity of the words and actions". It means the loyalty to our own words.

Sabda Pandhita Ratu does not apply to only queens and kings, but also to all people whose soul of the knights, born of knight's blood (the ksatriya caste) and whomever wants to do things right. The more perwayangan (wayang stories), epic Indonesian/folklore stories I read, the more understand I am to this concept. A gentleman (and also a lady) is judged by his/her actions--that is based on his/her words. The more capable one sticks to his/her words, the more noble he/she is.

During my visit to Bali last week, I talked to few people with broad knowledge and high spirituality. I've heard about this before, that we--the chosen ones--should be careful with our mind, words and action. But last week I got more convinced by this friend's words that the ancestors are watching my every step in this living world.

I don't have any sixth sense or such indigo sights. I am a normal person. But to know (literally and consciously) that the ancestors are watching, made me realize how powerful my words could be. If I say bad words toward others it could give them bad consequence. But if I use it wisely and for good causes, imagine what could've been!

Of course we don't need to being watched to do noble things, to apply this philosophy on our daily lives. It's just nice to have a confirmation, as a reminder that we are not alone in this world and that our behavior/actions are being supervised to determine our future ('the afterlife' and karma theory). I think it's just nice to know that the gods and ancestors are looking at our every step. Don't you think?

These people had lived dozens, if not a hundred, years in this world and have some messages for us young people how they do (did) it. If they can do it, why can't we? Grow up, be bolder!




















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I spent half my day today talking with my 19 years old cousin who asked me the other day stuff about life and spirituality. We discussed stuff, and I gave him some clues about life. I think it's kind of necessary to give out some advices here, to be shared and spread, the 10 best advices I've been holding on to in my life. Some I quoted, some I discovered myself. I hope these can help!

1. Things change. People change. It's one of the law in life and there's nothing we can do about it. The change is constant, therefore we must always learn to adapt. And adapt. And adapt again. We must be flexible and open minded.
2. The past is dead. When things change, you must know that that reality is gone and going to be replaced by a new one. It's always sad/shocking at first, but once we realize that we cannot relive the dead, we have no other option than to move on.
3. Listen to your heart. I know it sounds much easier than done, but the first thing pops into your mind usually comes from your subconscious mind/heart. It's the intuitive thing before any logic comes into mind. Needs a lot of practice to listen, but once you can it's gonna ease your way in life because heart will lead you the way.
4. Know your purpose. People say the purpose of life is to serve God. The others say to serve the others. Anything you find it clicks with your heart, go for it. Try find your purpose and be firm about it, and you'll be doing okay.
5. Acknowledge that HAPPINESS is a way of life, not a purpose. If your life goal is to be happy then you'll waste it finding something that can never be found until you switch your mind to be happy while living your life.
6. Connect to the nature. The Hindus believe that nature is God and God is in nature. Most peaceful people live in countryside while urban people tend to be depressed. I experienced this myself, that those lots of hours spent outside enjoying the scenery could be a kind of therapy and process on 'finding' the answers I'd been looking for. Go on vacation for a break. It'll always do you good.
7. Travel. Go somewhere new. Learn something new. Meet someone new. Anything new can always help--to handle boredom or to give new perspective on life. With more and more knowledge we receive, we are pushing our limits to its very edge. And it broadens our minds!
8. The people you know, you'll know for life. Even tho you know them for only a brief moment now, who knows if one day they'd become your boss/business partner/best friend--or spouse? So always do and give the best to people, as you want to be known/remembered.
9. In finding a spouse, look for one who has the opposite character from you but has the same taste/hobby/interest with you, not the otherwise. Opposite characters can help a lot to fill your weaknesses and vice versa, while same interest will help to keep/rebuild the passion alive.
10. Set some targets, be as tangible as possible, but NEVER target the age to be married. Money can be earned, success can be gained, but love is not a trophy. Love will come naturally, so never put target on when to be married. Worst marriages (that I know from people around me) are the ones that is done with time limit or the urge to have babies before 30. Come on. We are human beings, not robots!

Please feel free to share these if you find them helpful. Perhaps I'll compile another bundle of advices next time. And, by the way, have a happy brand new year ahead, folks!!

I was watching How I Met Your Mother: Season 1 the whole night yesterday and managed to watch till episode 19. Somehow there's a dialogue between Robin and Ted from the 18th episode that stuck on my head this whole day. So I replayed the movie and captured the scenes and placed them here so I can share with you guys.


This somehow made me laugh but also think and reflect on my own life. I really love the series!

My uncle just sent me this and I am very touched watching it. This is about family, death, letting go, taking the good side of a bad thing and loving the imperfect one. 'The little imperfections that make them perfect..'
I want a funeral speech like this when I'm dead. This is a nice way for people to remember.

~India Arie

I was listening to my iPod and found this song shuffled surround my ears. I think the lyrics are great and powerful, I love the idea of 'moving on' and the word forgiveness itself. So true and the thing we're facing daily in our lives. I love this song!

~Padi

I found this song yesterday on my way home at my iPod shuffle and I listened to its lyrics carefully cuz I didn't think I've ever heard this song before. It was downloaded automatically from my sister's playlist. But when I listened to this for the first time (and recognized Fadly's voice right away) I was touched by its carefully-stitched deep words that gives strength to a weeping soul. I can feel the power of these words since I've been there, too. This is a must-listen song, down to each words it contained.

Setiap perkataan yang menjatuhkan
Tak lagi kudengar dengan sungguh
Juga tutur kata yang mencela
Tak lagi kucerna dalam jiwa

Aku bukanlah seorang yang mengerti
Tentang kelihaian membaca hati
Ku hanya pemimpi kecil yang berangan
Tuk merubah nasibnya

Oh..bukankah ku pernah melihat bintang
Senyum menghiasi sang malam
Yang berkilau bagai permata
Menghibur yang lelah jiwanya, yang sedih hatinya
Yang lelah jiwanya, yang sedih hatinya

Kugerakkan langkah kaki
Dimana cinta akan bertumbuh
Kulayangkan jauh mata memandang
Tuk melanjutkan mimpi yang terputus

Masih kucoba mengejar rinduku
Meski peluh membasahi tanah
Lelah, penat tak menghalangiku
Menemukan bahagia

Oh..bukankah ku pernah melihat bintang
Senyum menghiasi sang malam
Yang berkilau bagai permata
Menghibur yang lelah jiwanya, yang sedih hatinya
Yang lelah jiwanya, yang sedih hatinya

Yang lelah jiwanya…

Oh..bukankah ku bisa melihat bintang
Senyum menghiasi sang malam
Yang berkilau bagai permata
Menghibur yang lelah jiwanya…

Bukankah hidup ada perhentian
Tak harus kencang terus berlari
Kuhelakan nafas panjang
Tuk siap berlari kembali…berlari kembali
Melangkahkan kaki…menuju cahaya

(Bagai bintang yang bersinar, menghibur yang lelah jiwanya
Bagai bintang yang berpijar, menghibur yang sedih hatinya)

Once upon a time, there was a bird. He was adorned with two perfect wings and with glossy, colorful, marvelous feathers. In short, he was a creature made to fly about freely in the sky, bringing joy to everyone who saw him.

One day, a woman saw this bird and fell in love with him. She watched his flight, her mouth wide in amazement, her heart pounding, her eyes shining with excitement. She invited the bird to fly with her, and the two traveled across the sky in perfect harmony. She admired and venerated and celebrated that bird.

But then she thought: He might want to visit far-off mountains! And she was afraid, afraid that she would never feel the same way about any other bird. And she felt envy, envy for the bird's ability to fly.

And she felt alone.
And she thought: I'm going to set a trap. The next time the bird appears, he will never leave again.

The bird, who was also in love, returned the following day, fell into the trap and was put in a cage.
She looked at the bird every day. There he was, the object of her passion, and she showed him to her friends, who said: "Now you have everything you could possibly want."

However, a strange transformation began to take place: now that she had the bird and no longer needed to woo him, she began to lose interest. The bird, unable to fly and express the true meaning of his life, began to waste away and his feathers to lose their gloss; he grew ugly; and the woman no longer paid him any attention, except by feeding him and cleaning out his cage.

One day, the bird died. The woman felt terribly sad and spent all her time thinking about him. But she did not remember the cage, she thought only of the day when she had seen him for the first time, flying contentedly amongst the cloud.

If she had looked more deeply into herself, she would have realized that what had thrilled her about the bird was his freedom, the energy of his wings in motion, not his physical body.

Without the bird, her life too lost all meaning, and Death came knocking at her door. "Why have you come?" she asked Death. "So that you can fly more with him across the sky," Death replied. "If you had allowed him to come and go, you would have loved and admired him even more; alas, you now need me in order to find me again."
[Story taken from Eleven Minutes, a novel by Paulo Coelho]


The story suits my love life perfectly. In my whole 24 years of life, I've loved, being loved, in and out of love. But from those many experiences of love, I found that it's best when we love without possessing anyone for to possess would risk a huge chance of losing interest, or worse, losing the love itself.

I don't like being out of love, the despair comes to me in a worst way and I don't want it to come back ever again. So instead of caging the bird I'll make a wiser decision; to only admire him from distance, to keep the passion and love burn between us. That's why it's best and more exciting to love someone that you don't (or can't) have instead of the one you own.

An Angel says, 'Never borrow from the future. If you worry about what may happen tomorrow and it doesn't happen, you have worried in vain. Even if it does happen, you have to worry twice.'

1. Pray

2. Go to bed on time.

3. Get up on time so you can start the day unrushed.

4. Say No to projects that won't fit into your time schedule, or that will compromise your mental health.

5. Delegate tasks to capable others.

6. Simplify and unclutter your life.

7. Less is more. (Although one is often not enough, two are often too many.)

8. Allow extra time to do things and to get to places.

9. Pace yourself. Spread out big changes and difficult projects over time; don't lump the hard things all together.

10. Take one day at a time.

11. Separate worries from concerns . If a situation is a concern, find out what God would have you do and let go of the anxiety . If you can't do anything about a situation, forget it.

12. Live within your budget; don't use credit cards for ordinary purchases

13. Have backups; an extra car key in your wallet, an extra house key buried in the garden, extra stamps, etc.

14. K.M.S. (Keep Mouth Shut). This single piece of advice can prevent an enormous amount of trouble.

15. Do something for the Kid in You everyday.

16. Carry a Bible with you to read while waiting in line.

17. Get enough rest.

18. Eat right.

19 Get organized so everything has its place.

20. Listen to a tape while driving that can help improve your quality of life.

21. Write down thoughts and inspirations.

22. Every day, find time to be alone.

23. Having problems? Talk to God on the spot. Try to nip small problems in the bud. Don't wait until it's time to go to bed to try and pray.

24. Make friends with Godly people.

25. Keep a folder of favorite scriptures on hand.

26. Remember that the shortest bridge between despair and hope is often a good 'Thank you Jesus.'

27. Laugh.

28. Laugh some more!

29. Take your work seriously, but not yourself at all.

30. Develop a forgiving attitude (most people are doing the best they can).

31. Be kind to unkind people (they probably need it the most).

32. Sit on your ego.

33 Talk less; listen more.

34. Slow down.

35. Remind yourself that you are not the general manager of the universe.

36 Every night before bed, think of one thing you're grateful for that you've never been grateful for before. GOD HAS A WAY OF TURNING THINGS AROUND FOR YOU.

'If God is for us, who can be against us?'

(A)ccepts you as you are
(B)elieves in "you"
(C)alls you just to say "HI"
(D)oesn't give up on you
(E)nvisions the whole of you
(F)orgives your mistakes
(G)ives unconditionally
(H)elps you
(I)nvites you over
(J)ust "be" with you
(K)eeps you close at heart
(L)oves you for who you are
(M)akes a difference in your life
(N)ever Judges
(O)ffers support
(P)icks you up
(Q)uiets your fears
(R)aises your spirits
(S)ays nice things about you
(T)ells you the truth when you need hear it
(U)nderstands you
(V)alues you
(W)alks beside you
(X)- plain things you don't understand
(Y)ells when you won't listen and....
(Z)aps you back to reality..

Seorang anak laki-laki kecil bertanya kepada ibunya, "Mengapa engkau menangis?"
"Karena aku seorang wanita," kata sang ibu kepadanya.
"Aku tidak mengerti," kata anak itu.
Ibunya hanya memeluknya dan berkata, "Dan kau tak akan pernah mengerti."

Kemudian anak laki-laki itu bertanya kepada ayahnya, "Mengapa ibu suka menangis tanpa alasan?"
"Semua wanita menangis tanpa alasan," hanya itu yang dapat dikatakan oleh ayahnya.

Anak laki-laki kecil itu pun lalu tumbuh menjadi seorang laki-laki dewasa,
namun tetap ingin tahu mengapa wanita menangis.
Akhirnya ia menghubungi Tuhan, dan ia bertanya,
"Tuhan, mengapa wanita begitu mudah menangis?"

Tuhan berkata:
"Ketika Aku menciptakan seorang wanita, ia diharuskan untuk menjadi seorang yang istimewa. Aku membuat bahunya cukup kuat untuk menopang dunia; namun, harus cukup lembut untuk memberikan kenyamanan.

"Aku memberikannya kekuatan dari dalam untuk mampu melahirkan anak dan menerima penolakan yang seringkali datang dari anak-anaknya.

"Aku memberinya kekerasan untuk membuatnya tetap tegar ketika orang-orang lain menyerah, dan mengasuh keluarganya dengan penderitaan dan kelelahan tanpa mengeluh.

"Aku memberinya kepekaan untuk mencintai anak-anaknya dalam setiap keadaan, bahkan ketika anaknya bersikap sangat menyakiti hatinya.

"Aku memberinya kekuatan untuk mendukung suaminya dalam kegagalannya dan melengkapi dengan tulang rusuk suaminya untuk melindungi hatinya.

"Aku memberinya kebijaksanaan untuk mengetahui bahwa seorang suami yang baik takkan pernah menyakiti isterinya, tetapi kadang menguji kekuatannya dan ketetapan hatinya untuk berada di sisi suaminya tanpa ragu.

"Dan akhirnya, Aku memberinya air mata untuk diteteskan. Ini adalah khusus miliknya untuk digunakan kapan pun ia butuhkan.

"Kau tahu:
Kecantikan seorang wanita bukanlah dari pakaian yang dikenakannya, sosok yang ia
tampilkan, atau bagaimana ia menyisir rambutnya.

"Kecantikan seorang wanita harus dilihat dari matanya, karena itulah pintu hatinya -tempat di mana cinta itu ada."

~a really great message from a guy friend for us girls~



--Guys hate sluts even though they have sex with them!
(oh yeah..you're not "popular" if you've slept with more
than 6 guys..you're a HOE)

--Guys may be flirting around all daybut before they go
to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.

--Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.

--Guys will do anything just to get you to notice him

--Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend or ex love-interest.

--Boyfriends need to be reassured often that they're still loved.

--Don't talk about your guy friends to your boyfriend.

--Guys get jealous easily.

--Guys are more emotional than they'd like people to think.

--Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!
..uh...nevermind.." would make him jump to a conclusion
that is farfrom what you are thinking.
And he'll assume he did something wrong and he'll obsess
about it trying to figure it out.

--Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually
stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.

--A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.

--Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships.

--Guys think WAY too much. One small thing a girl does,
even if she doesn't notice it can make the guy think about it
for hours, trying to figure out what it meant.

--Guys seek for advice from girls not other guys. Because most
guys think alike, so if one guy's confused, then we're all confused.

--When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just actually
saying, "Please come and listen to me."

--If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. It doesn't happen
that often, so when it does, you know something's up.

--If your best guy friend seems to avoid you or is never around
when you're with your boyfriend, he's probably jealous and likes you.

--When a guy tells you that you are beautiful, don't say you aren't.
It makes them want to stop telling you because they don't want you to disagree with them.

--When a guy looks at you for longer than a second, he's definitely
thinking something.

--Guys don't like girls who punch harder than they do.

--A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.

--Don't be a snob. Guys can be intimidated and give up easily.

--Guys talk about girls more than girls talk about guys.

--Guys hate rejection, but they hate being led on even more.

--If you are going to reject a guy, just do it. Don't say they are
like a brother or just good friends, it just hurts even more.
Tell them that you aren't interested in a relationship and they will respect you.

--Guys really think that girls are strange and have
unpredictable decisions and are MAD confusing but somehow
are drawn even more to them.

--When a guy sacrifices his sleep and health just to be with you,
he really likes you and wants to be with you as much as possible.

My Dad always told me that we could never measure our wealth by money but by our friends.
I'm sure our friendship has made me rich!!!
Tiny but wonderful seeds of blessings are sprinkled on earth each day...
and I just caught one that's so nice and true... And it's you!

I may have forgotten to say that I care. I may have failed to open up and share,
but though no words have been spoken, my promise of friendship won't be broken.
Time and distance are important between friends. When a friend is in your heart, they remain there forever.
I may be busy, but I assure you, you are always in my heart!

Friends are like the walls of a house. Sometimes they hold you up, sometimes you lean on them. But sometimes, it's enough to know they're just standing by.
If all my friends were to jump off a bridge, I wouldn't jump with them;
I'd be at the bottom to catch them.

One tree can start a forest; one smile can start a friendship.
One touch can show you care; one friend can make life worth living for.
A smile makes us look younger...while friends make us feel stronger... and they make us enjoy life.

True Friends always pop up to say Hello
True Friends don't Care if you're a lil' different
True Friends never fight like cats and dogs
True Friends will drive you anywhere!!!

True Friends let everyone come along
True Friends don't laugh at you when you get new glasses
True Friends help you up when you're down...
And True Friends never let you do something you'll regret when you wake up the next morning!

[anonymous]

Tersebutlah, di suatu pulau kecil, tinggallah berbagai macam benda-benda abstrak. Ada Cinta, Kesedihan, Kekayaan, Kegembiraan dan sebagainya. Mereka hidup berdampingan dengan baik.

Namun suatu ketika, datang badai menghempas dan air laut tiba-tiba naik dan akan menenggelamkan pulau itu. Semua penghuni pulau cepat-cepat berusaha menyelamatkan diri.

Cinta sangat kebingungan sebab ia tidak dapat berenang dan tak mempunyai perahu. Ia berdiri di tepi pantai mencoba mencari pertolongan. Sementara itu air makin naik membasahi kaki Cinta.

Tak lama Cinta melihat Kekayaan sedang mengayuh perahu.
"Kekayaan! Kekayaan! Tolong aku!" teriak Cinta.
"Aduh! Maaf, Cinta!" kata Kekayaan, "Perahuku telah penuh dengan harta bendaku. Aku tak dapat membawamu serta, nanti perahu ini tenggelam. Lagipula tak ada tempat lagi bagimu di perahuku ini."

Lalu Kekayaan cepat-cepat mengayuh perahunya pergi. Cinta sedih sekali, namun kemudian dilihatnya Kegembiraan lewat dengan perahunya.

"Kegembiraan! Tolong aku!", teriak Cinta. Namun Kegembiraan terlalu gembira karena ia menemukan perahu
sehingga ia tak mendengar teriakan Cinta. Air makin tinggi membasahi
Cinta sampai ke pinggang. Ia kian panik.

Tak lama lewatlah Kecantikan. "Kecantikan! Bawalah aku bersamamu!", teriak Cinta.
"Wah, Cinta, kamu basah dan kotor. Aku tak bisa membawamu ikut. Nanti kamu mengotori perahuku yang indah ini," sahut Kecantikan.

Cinta sedih sekali mendengarnya. Ia mulai menangis terisak-isak.

Saat itu lewatlah Kesedihan. "Oh, Kesedihan, bawalah aku bersamamu," kata Cinta. Maaf, Cinta. Aku sedang sedih dan aku ingin sendirian saja..." kata Kesedihan sambil terus mengayuh perahunya.

Cinta putus asa. Ia merasakan air makin naik dan akan menenggelamkannya. Pada saat kritis itulah tiba-tiba terdengar suara, "Cinta! Mari cepat naik ke perahuku!". Cinta menoleh ke arah suara itu dan melihat seorang tua dengan perahunya. Cepat-cepat Cinta naik ke perahu itu, tepat sebelum air menenggelamkannya. Di pulau terdekat, orang tua itu menurunkan Cinta dan segera pergi lagi.

Pada saat itu barulah Cinta sadar bahwa ia sama sekali tidak mengetahui siapa orang tua yang menyelamatkannya itu. Cinta segera menanyakannya kepada seorang penduduk tua di pulau itu, siapa sebenarnya lelaki tua tadi.

"Oh, orang tua tadi? Dia adalah Waktu." kata orang itu. "Tapi, mengapa ia menyelamatkanku?
Aku tak mengenalnya. Bahkan teman-teman yang mengenalku pun enggan menolongku," tanya Cinta heran.

"Sebab," kata orang itu, "hanya Waktu-lah yang tahu berapa nilai sesungguhnya dari Cinta itu..."