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I spent half my day today talking with my 19 years old cousin who asked me the other day stuff about life and spirituality. We discussed stuff, and I gave him some clues about life. I think it's kind of necessary to give out some advices here, to be shared and spread, the 10 best advices I've been holding on to in my life. Some I quoted, some I discovered myself. I hope these can help!
- Things change. People change. It's one of the law in life and there's nothing we can do about it. The change is constant, therefore we must always learn to adapt. And adapt. And adapt again. We must be flexible and open minded.
- The past is dead. When things change, you must know that that reality is gone and going to be replaced by a new one. It's always sad/shocking at first, but once we realize that we cannot relive the dead, we have no other option than to move on.
- Listen to your heart. I know it sounds much easier than done, but the first thing pops into your mind usually comes from your subconscious mind/heart. It's the intuitive thing before any logic comes into mind. Needs a lot of practice to listen, but once you can it's gonna ease your way in life because heart will lead you the way.
- Know your purpose. People say the purpose of life is to serve God. The others say to serve the others. Anything you find it clicks with your heart, go for it. Try find your purpose and be firm about it, and you'll be doing okay.
- Acknowledge that HAPPINESS is a way of life, not a purpose. If your life goal is to be happy then you'll waste it finding something that can never be found until you switch your mind to be happy while living your life.
- Connect to the nature. The Hindus believe that nature is God and God is in nature. Most peaceful people live in countryside while urban people tend to be depressed. I experienced this myself, that those lots of hours spent outside enjoying the scenery could be a kind of therapy and process on 'finding' the answers I'd been looking for. Go on vacation for a break. It'll always do you good.
- Travel. Go somewhere new. Learn something new. Meet someone new. Anything new can always help--to handle boredom or to give new perspective on life. With more and more knowledge we receive, we are pushing our limits to its very edge. And it broadens our minds!
- The people you know, you'll know for life. Even tho you know them for only a brief moment now, who knows if one day they'd become your boss/business partner/best friend--or spouse? So always do and give the best to people, as you want to be known/remembered.
- In finding a spouse, look for one who has the opposite character from you but has the same taste/hobby/interest with you, not the otherwise. Opposite characters can help a lot to fill your weaknesses and vice versa, while same interest will help to keep/rebuild the passion alive.
- Set some targets, be as tangible as possible, but NEVER target the age to be married. Money can be earned, success can be gained, but love is not a trophy. Love will come naturally, so never put target on when to be married. Worst marriages (that I know from people around me) are the ones that is done with time limit or the urge to have babies before 30. Come on. We are human beings, not robots!
Please feel free to share these if you find them helpful. Perhaps I'll compile another bundle of advices next time. And, by the way, have a happy brand new year ahead, folks!!
HELLO 2015!