Since this is the most interesting topic for most of us, let's talk about love, shall we?
I received so many questions about romance on my Youtube channel and I kinda break it down to 5 points that I share here, based on my own experience. These are the things that one should be aware of in order to have a great, loving relationship with the right person. So here's the list--be aware when you are:
1. Focusing only to the physical matters
And physical here doesn't talk only of face, body, or clothing style. It's also about family, economical status, job, or the car that one drives/not drives. We all know these things are the only complementary, and what's the most important lies behind all these. So make sure that when you like someone's appearance, you like what's in the inside too.
2. Waiting for the one who doesn't care
We cannot control our hearts, they said. But truth is, it is your mind that plays here. You may meet someone and like them for they are fulfilling your fantasy of an ideal partner. But I'm gonna tell you here: fantasy isn't real. But intuition, feeling, or your gut is real. So if you like someone and they don't like you back, it's a sign that they're not the one for you.
3. Hanging on to a problematic relationship
A relationship is two ways, and it's always fixable. So if you've been together with someone but the same problem keeps occurring, and both of you cannot resolve it, then it's categorized as a toxic relationship. If you're the one who keeps on trying and hurting with no change, it's just not balanced and it's not healthy. If you've tried but they are still the same, then leave them.
4. Agreeing to someone who's available
Although this is a very common case found, but for me this is the beginning of a painful relationship, especially if they are being your rebound lover. Nobody deserves to be anyone's replacement, and you will never be truly happy either, because you will always look for the figure your partner is not and never will be, thus they will never be perfect to you. This might still work sometimes, but I believe we deserve to be together with our soulmate/twin flame.
5. Wanting someone who is in another relationship
Whether it's them who are attached, or it is you who is already taken, this relationship is not meant to be. When someone says "I do" to build a family with another person, then it means they're taken and they're never ours to have. The same thing happens the other way around. Just remember that three is a crowd. Every single time.
So there you go, stuff you must be clear about when you look for a serious and lasting relationship. So THE POINT IS: beware of the facts. Trust the data, not only your thoughts or emotion or even logic, because they can be misleading sometimes. Fantasy blinds us about the truth, so you must always be aware and present at the moment. You have the gut feeling that is never wrong, but sometimes you ignore it because the fantasy looks or sounds better. Your gut feeling is your tool, so use it.
If a person makes you feel calm, peaceful, and safe, then he/she might be the one. Still, it takes time to prove everything to be true, so trust the process and celebrate each moment!
And good luck with your love life!
Rahayu,
Victoria
