I have some issues about this vain thing for the past few months. First issue. A guy--call him Andy--is so dumb he made a girl at work--Mary--who was willing to help as a friend at first time became so impatient about his stupidity. One day, they are working together for an expo and for some point, he pushed Mary's patience to the limit and it was exploded into a serious anger.

While Mary was tremendously mad to Andy because he didn't prepare well and he failed to pay attention to what she had noted down for him three months earlier about the exact same thing, Andy thought Mary was jealous of a girl he was talking about over "In A Rush" song played earlier that day--while Andy sadly thought, "She was jealous of herself." Mary was the girl in his song.

Second issue. A girl--call her Kin--quietly likes a cool guy--Jack--she met at work. One day, Jack quit the job and disappeared, leaving Kin fitful with her own feelings she thought they have in common. "We love and understand each other and we had passed all the chit-chat phase," she said. The fact is, they had never spent any time together outside of the office.

Both of them thought the persons they like are liking them back, without no utter proof. It was all due to their delusional mind and being such smartasses. The consequences are their obvious disappointment by acting childish at office--slamming stuff, avoiding people, skipping deadlines. They are not just annoying by attitude, but also adverse the colleagues. Made people had to cover up their failures as a team while they are not the only ones who got problems.

What happen with Andy and Kin, actually? They both are spreading God's words, boasting their church-based lives, talking about theories but none are applied in their real lives. They are both talking too much but what they do everyday is just way far from what they told us to. They are negligent at work, ruin people's mood and made people think twice about their personalities.

Not that I--and most of the friends around--am being judgmental about them. But what they said out loud are just tickling us to keep in mind and curious to see the proof... and disappointed when we see it isn't as good as when it was still in form of words. Reality isn't as good as fantasy and it ain't easy either. But at least we can all talk based on reality.

Minus side of both Kin and Andy is that they are tend to preach people about the theories they (might had just) found and thought are good for life. They are correct about the last one, but the thing is, their preaches are annoying if they can not implement them in their own lives. People would see it as bullshit, that they are fake and insincere.

One thing I want to underline here: Never be a smartass when you don't even know what you are talking about. If you want to share your limited knowledge with your surroundings, share it with an attitude, not as the person who thinks-he-knows-all, so people won't judge you. Remember that you are being monitored by people around and every of your words are remembered.

As what I wrote about another "fake" people (click here), you are obligated to prove all the fact of the words that came out of your mouth, otherwise you might be called a fake person. Perhaps this Andy and Kin aren't fake, but certainly still need a lot to learn in life. Yet I have no time telling and nurturing them while they thought they knew all the life formula already. There is no use throwing pearls to pigs (Matt 7:6). It is utterly useless.

I think people need to start to separate personal and professional problems, leaving personal matters at home and leaving work stuff at office. Don't mix them around or you would be pain in the ass for your colleagues. Be respectful and do not act selfish, especially to those who come to work properly. When you aren't working professional in a teamwork, most likely you could be a "public enemy" and be kicked out soon.

Both for Kin and Andy, they also need to separate their hallucination, delusional thinking with real life. Things are need to be proven right before you can take a conclusion. And just because the person they like are friendly to them, doesn't mean that he/she likes them back. If the person really like them, I am certain there would be some proofs or real stuff to prove their feelings.

Still for Kin and Andy, I would say: "Grow up! Get up! Get real!" World doesn't revolve around you guys. You aren't the only ones who got problem, and your problems aren't the heaviest of all. People are dealing with problems everyday and it should be a learning process to make one more mature. Don't walk in the same place, you need to step up higher. Every decision you make in mind should bring you someplace, and it's better be nearer to your goal.

So, for friends out there, I can only suggest you to be modest when you think you don't know anything. Empty your cup so you can hold up more water. Never stop learning, even from people around you, even if they are not lecturers you adore. Never adore a person too highly, for it could be your point of falling. Listen more, talk less. God created your two ears and one mouth for some reason. Lastly, you are not the poorest, saddest person in the world. Period.

I hope this message is delivered ;)